What is it about age that makes moving on more difficult (and this is a generalisation here!). As children, we wished for the time when we were in the year above at school, or old enough to earn some money by getting a job, learn to drive a car etc. etc.
As you get older, the idea of moving on changes. The idea of having a mortgage for a very long time, of having to think about a pension, paying to get the children through university, all those things create a slightly different and more negative sense of moving on.
Today I want to talk about moving on with expectancy. I have always liked the phrase 'expectant mother'. 'Pregnant' is very factual, expectant mother creates a more 'looking forward to' atmosphere. Expectant mothers go through 3 phases.
There is the first trimester – symptoms are feeling unwell, getting used to the idea of being pregnant, thinking this is going to last for ever.
The second trimester is the bit in the middle where the expectant mother blooms, she begins to take shape, there might be an 'enjoyable' part to being pregnant, there is the apprehensive excitement of what is to come.
The third trimester sees an increase in discomfort, the wishing the days away and from month 8 onwards, when is this baby going to come out!!
Birth brings incredible elation and the joy of new life.
End of biology lesson. The point here is that to move on, we need to be expectant of something happening. Moving on without a vision or understanding of the path we travel means that we wander round in the wilderness with no sense of purpose.
As we get into the process of moving on, we also go through stages of expectancy – I know I do. Can you identify with this? Do you need to approach it in a different way – sometimes, I have a word with myself about my attitude to change.
Have a good day.
Richard Mason